Thursday, March 19, 2015

The why behind it


At least a few times a month I get an email from someone who reads my blog asking why I don't share many photos of my daughters. It seems they used to be featured more in this space and they wonder why the shift.


It's a natural progression. And a conscious one on my part. My girls are young women now and though many of the stories that I used to share here are hilarious and fair game at the next bonfire or holiday meal shared with extended family and friends, they are not fair game for this space. I've never shared their real names here for the same reason. And I certainly don't want future employers to be able to Google them and read the innocence of their childhood. The digital footprint they put down of their lives should be of their own choosing.


So, for however long now, I've tried to move away from posting my perspective of motherhood with photos and stories of them as my poster children. I try to express how I am feeling as a mother. My experience. How if feels in my shoes. And though I recognize that some of the humor, identification, relate ability and face-to-a-name-ness is missing as a result of this shift, I feel it's right for my daughters. It feels authentic to my style of parenting. 


And yep. I agree that it leaves a gap in my blog both in content and frequency of posts but I'm good with that. And I hope you are too.

-dana

12 comments:

Jo said...

Although I miss seeing your beautiful daughters, as a mother myself, I totally understand why you don't blog about them so much x

Andrea R said...

I did the same with my own kids - not so much for online security or privacy, but at some point, their lives become *their* story to tell - not mine.

Jacque. said...

Well, Dana...it is, after all, your blog. To write and share what you wish to. I am fine reading whatever you post...it's all good. I do not write often - or much - about my personal life and I think people have a feel for who I am by how I write about what I do. My blog is as much for me as it is for anyone who chooses to read it. Amen.

dolores said...

A OK chickadee!!

Hmmmm do I see that you all are doing OM? Our girl did that all four years of high school and they went to Worlds three times! Good times!:)

Beth said...

I certainly understand. And even without pictures of your family the blog is fun and I enjoy hearing what you are up to.

Material Girl said...

You are doing the right thing!

Lynne Shandley said...

Fully agree. They are growing up and undoubtedly do not want their mom sharing their tales for all to read about! (However, you can share your experience, as you have been doing :-)

Osage Bluff Quilter said...

I completely understand your point!!!

Kar said...

It's totally fine and the right thing to do. : )

Alisa said...

Oh, me too. I mostly use instagram now but I hardly post pics of my older kids and then only if they agree. I totally get why you post less too, the kids are here right now so we best raise them and enjoy them before they fly off into the world. :-)

Kim said...

Being a parent is the hardest job in the world, trying to find the right balance of being in their world is a life long challenge....even when they are grown and live faraway. I have always enjoyed watching how you love and respect your girls and this really seems like the natural transition of "letting go" of their childhoods. They will love you all the more for it now that they are young ladies moving into the adult world.

Trust you mothering instincts :0)
Happy Sewing

Denise said...

I don't know you, but if I could I would hug you. I applaud you for the stand you are taking on the protection of your family. Social media is great when used for fun, information of help. But it can turn dark very, very quickly. Post when you want, how you want, and we will enjoy.